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Have you ever felt that a guy has the looks, the brains, the outlook and even the humor of your “perfect man” with a catch? The catch is the fact that he is not much of a “hit with girls”. He is wise but does not know how to really sustain or even entertain a girl. He is great in a group but when no one’s around, his guards shoot right up. Well, my dear ladies, if you didn’t already know, your “just quite perfect” man falls in the genre of “The Shy Guy”.

Now that you could find a guy so close to the man of your dreams, you can’t just let go! The first insight into the shy guys is that they are very much aware of their “shyness” and do want to get rid of it as much as you do. The catch, however, is the fact that the awareness makes them more self-conscious and you can even get the guy to blush if pushed too hard. The trick is to keep a fine balance between taking the lead yourself and still letting him be the “man”.

For starters, you SHOULD make a move. It is no big deal to flirt a little, make some witty remarks around him. Remember though that you need to do this initially in the presence of some good close friends. This “flirting” should be casual and light hearted. Usually, the initial reaction of your guy would be that of surprise and embarrassment, irrespective of whether he likes you back or not. Give him time to get used to it. The next best thing is to find things to talk about. Since this is not a regular guy, you need to make some effort to find things he is passionate about. Learn some about these things and talk about them with him. This would also give you a chance to get to hang out and may be “do some stuff together about it”.

Just remember to take it slow and not over do it. For instance, don’t let your friends “leave you two alone” every time you are in a group. Take it really slow and if you sense he is not getting interested still, back off in time. The problem with shy guys is that they are much better at avoiding girls than talking to them. So, go right ahead and pursue your “shy guy” but do remember to handle him with care.

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