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It happens very often that you get bored in a relationship you are in for the past two or so years. It is natural, if not obvious to reach a stage where you crave for a change, a fling or just plain simple break. The two gravest mistakes people tend to make in this time are they curse themselves for the lack of loyalty or break up with that person altogether. I find these two as mistakes because you shouldn’t be blaming yourself for some thing that is very natural and almost bound to happen after a certain amount of time. Breaking up is not a solution either because more often than not, you’ll end up getting back together very soon. The reason being, in a long term relation, you get very “used to” even dependent on each other. Cutting off suddenly is bound to get you anxious.

So, we are right back to “bored and stuck” with some one. The first tip is to convince yourself it is temporary, at least initially. The next thing is telling your spouse how you feel “with decorated words”, if you are not close enough to say it directly. You could tell him/her that lately you’ve been feeling a little off. It is just a phase or a stupid mood swing. You need some extra space and time alone to get over with this. It is no big deal. Now, having dealt with the spouse, take some time off of calling and meeting with just them. Hang out with other friends; indulge yourself in stuff you love.

You will end up missing them after a very short while. And if you do not miss them at all, even after say a month, you need to ask yourself the big question. I wouldn’t say “break up”, I’d rather suggest to ask yourself what was keeping you together till now. If your answer is some thing like “It’s nice to have some one” or “It’s better her/him” than no one, then you need to consider letting go.

Don’t just go ahead and cheat or “not do anything about it” when you are bored. Get up and take action for life is too short to waste “bored”.

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